Hi, I am the writer. My husband is very shy and also a bit unaware of social dynamics, most of the time. He fully didn’t see what was happening until I brought it up to him with examples, and he was very much on my side. He’s a great husband and I don’t blame him for not picking up on other guys being skeevy. He and the DM did talk about it and Brian was told to tone it down, but also they all worked together (Brian and my husband even shared an office…), so it wasn’t like we could just expel Brian from the group without things blowing up. I promise I’m not being mistreated by my husband—he’s just nonconfrontational.