If you wanted to be left alone, you wouldn't have written this rant in my comments. I didn't tag you because I didn't want to engage with you further--every time I counter your argument with either demonstrable fact or an anecdote, you move the goalposts and try to pick me apart at the seams. I also, perhaps naively, thought it might be the kinder thing to give you some relative anonymity in this situation. But here you are, outing yourself. Congratulations?

The subtitle to your post is "Allow me to destroy feminism with 10 simple questions," and you want to talk to me about respect? Your opening premise is "This may trigger a lot of feminists, but that’s not my concern," and you want to talk to me about understanding? In your comments, you told me you'd make me "eat my words," and said some really unkind things. You literally called my husband a "feminine man" because he cooks. You called me a "masculine woman" because I dared to have an education.

So yeah, I'm angry. I'm angry because despite being very forthcoming in the comments on your article, you refused to see how your views are actively harming people like me. Your views (call them "traditionalist" or "anti-feminist" or whatever you want) support violence against women, whether that's what you "mean" to support, or not. Whether or not you "mean" to insinuate that all women are greedy, shallow gold-diggers, you do, and that's what some young man is going to take away from your article.

You might not subscribe to Tate. You might not even like him. But by repeating his talking-points, you are supporting what he stands for and validating his followers' harmful behaviour, which has real and harmful consequences.

This may be all just a "thought experiment" for you. For me, it's my life. For me, it's my safety. For me, it's my livelihood. For me, it's my bodily autonomy. There are places in the world where women aren't legally people, cannot own property, have no rights to their own children in a divorce, have no right to refuse their husband sex (marital rape), cannot have a credit card, are banned from wearing certain clothing, and/or have no bodily autonomy, but for you, all it's all up for debate.

Fundamentally, we are starting from different universes. I tried to be reasonable, and you wouldn't listen. There are two definitions of "respect": respect for a person as a human being, and respect for an authority. Because we use the same word for these two concepts, people often conflate them. When you say, “If you don’t respect me, I won’t respect you” and then treat me and other women's rights as a thought experiment, what I'm hearing is “If you don’t respect me as an authority, I won’t respect you as a human being.” I always treated you with the second kind of respect. I won't be giving you the first.